The hardest thing about therapy, many people say, is making that first phone call . . . which is why I believe it’s vitally important to find a therapist who offers a safe, open, and responsive space where you can speak freely, feel heard, and get useful feedback.
I'm a warm, thoughtful listener who shares insights and observations in a supportive environment where there is room for humor.
Steady, in-depth psychoanalytic psychotherapy is in my estimation the surest, strongest way to work through one's difficulties in living in order to create a happier, calmer, and more satisfying life. Not old-school psychoanalysis (no silent man behind the couch), but the more "user-friendly" form of contemporary practice that has evolved in recent decades. Contemporary relational practice -- which I continue to study as well as teach -- is collaborative, authentic, intimate and personalized. We explore what makes you tick, your hopes, fears, hot spots, blind spots, areas where you feel stuck or confused, and over time better strategies and solutions emerge.
Life is hard, and we all struggle to find our way. Living in a culture where quick fixes reign, it's tempting to seek short-term solutions. This is a big reason that CBT is so fashionable. Yet our issues generally take root over many years of thinking and reacting in certain fixed ways, typically ways we're barely aware of. So while CBT techniques have their uses (and I occasionally employ some), I've found that developing new patterns of handling stress and accessing real, lasting change takes time and requires commitment.
However, ask anyone who's made a commitment to the process. They'll tell you it's worth the work.
So if you're lost, stuck, struggling, in pain, tired of enduring it alone, feeling disconnected from those around you, what a relief to know that help is available. With expert, empathic support, you can begin living your life in a new and better way.
That first phone call awaits.
Matt Aibel, LCSW | offices in New York City and in Northport, Long Island (currently remote) | 646.361.7677
I am a psychoanalytic psychotherapist.
Education/training: I hold degrees from NYU (MSW) and Yale (BA, cum laude) as well as certification in Psychoanalysis and Comprehensive Psychotherapy from National Institute for the Psychotherapies (NIP), a renown 4-year postgraduate training program in contemporary psychodynamic and psychoanalytic treatment modalities (Educators Award recipient for outstanding scholarly contribution).
Teaching: I am a faculty member at NIP, where I teach clinical practice and lead group supervision.
In addition, I lead workshops, present theoretical and clinical papers, and moderate panels at conferences, colloquia, and webinars at a number of psychoanalytic associations, including: International Association of Relational Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (IARPP), American Psychoanalytic Association (APsaA), National Institute for the Psychotherapies Professional Association (NIP), and Suffolk Institute for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis (SIPP). I‘ve moderated international webinars as well.
Publications: I serve as Submissions Editor of Psychoanalytic Perspectives, a peer-reviewed journal, and I am Editor of The IARPP Bulletin, the International Association of Relational Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (IARPP) newsletter which reaches over 2000 therapists worldwide. My clinical and theoretical writing is published in the journals Psychoanalytic Perspectives, Attachment, and Psychoanalytic Psychology. My papers include “Being Railroaded” (Gradiva Award nomination, NAAP) and “The Personal is Political is Psychoanalytic,” both of which are frequently cited in the analytic literature and are read in analytic training and in professional study groups.
Mainstream press: I have been interviewed by journalists from The Washington Post, New York Magazine, TimeOut NY, Agence France-Presse, The Guardian (UK), and Gold (a comedians’ website).
Leadership: I serve on an international advisory panel as a member of IARPP's Colloquium Committee. I also chair NIP's Recruitment Committee and serve as organizer and moderator of NIP’s annual Open House events for prospective applicants,
During a 5-year term as NIP’s Associate Director of Continuing Education, I organized and moderated 25 workshops with many of the country’s most influential psychologists and psychoanalysts.
Plus: I continue reading, writing, and studying to deepen my skills and understanding of the change process.
Earlier: Prior to establishing my private practice, my work experience included providing assessments and psychotherapy at NIP’s outpatient clinic, individual and group therapy at a community mental health center run by Albert Einstein College of Medicine in the Bronx; and working with students and the guidance department at a Central Harlem elementary school.
I work equally well with adults, children, and teens. I also provide couples counseling and clinical supervision.
I am an eligible "out-of-network" provider.
If you wish to claim insurance reimbursement for my services, call your plan and ask the following questions about "out-of-network outpatient mental health benefits":
1) Do you reimburse for psychotherapy with out-of-network LCSWs?
2) What is my (or my family's) annual deductible?
3) Is there a maximum number of sessions allowable per year, and if so how many?
4) What percentage of the provider's fee is reimbursed?
With out-of-network therapy, my procedure is as follows:
I provide you with a monthly bill; you pay me directly and in full; you send your insurance company a copy of the bill; they reimburse your claim.
The insurance company may also contact me to verify that you are in treatment and for additional provider information.
This arrangement is called "third-party reimbursement."
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