About Me | Insurance
The hardest thing about therapy, many people say, is making that first phone call . . . which is why I believe it’s vitally important to find a therapist who offers a safe, open and responsive space where you can speak freely, feel heard and get useful feedback.
I'm a warm, thoughtful listener who shares insights and observations in a supportive environment where there is room for humor.
Steady, in-depth psychoanalytic psychotherapy is, in my estimation, the surest, strongest way to work through one's difficulties in living in order to create a happier, calmer and more satisfying life. Not old-school psychoanalysis (no silent man behind the couch), but the more "user-friendly" form of contemporary practice that has evolved in recent decades. Contemporary relational practice -- which I continue to study as well as teach -- is collaborative, authentic, intimate and personalized. We explore what makes you tick, your hopes, fears, hot spots, blind spots, areas where you feel stuck or confused, and over time better strategies and solutions emerge.
Life is hard, and we all struggle to find our way. Living in a culture where quick fixes reign, it's tempting to seek short-term solutions. This is a big reason that CBT is so fashionable. Yet our issues generally take root over many years of thinking and reacting in certain fixed ways, typically ways we're barely aware of. So while CBT techniques have their uses (and I occasionally employ some), I've found that developing new patterns of handling stress and accessing real, lasting change takes time and requires commitment. However, ask anyone who's made a commitment to the process. They'll tell you it's worth the work.
So if you're lost, stuck, struggling, in pain, tired of enduring it alone, feeling disconnected from those around you -- what a relief to know that help is available. With expert, empathic support, you can begin living your life in a new and better way.
That first phone call awaits.
Matt Aibel, LCSW | offices in New York City and in Northport, Long Island (currently remote) | 646.361.7677